Ghosting is pretty much the act of stopping all communication with someone out of the blue, mostly in the dating world. So the big question here is why do men ghost? Did he meet someone else? Did he get bored? Is it forgetfulness, did they lose your phone number, or are they just afraid of saying that they are not interested in dating?
Yes, sometimes this is totally innocent and two people just lose touch with each other. But in many cases, ghosting is the act, and guys are the culprit.
There is never a good excuse to ghost someone. Ghosting is very disrespectful and is very hurtful and confusing to the person on the receiving end.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the most common reasons men ghost.
- He is lazy.
When a guy is not interested or loses any interest he did have, he will just stop answering phone calls and text messages. We know that’s pretty rude, but he may not even see it as an issue. He may not even think that whatever you had requires an explanation. So in other words, he is just immature.
- He is afraid.
And not of his feelings for you but rather his fear of confrontation. He simply does not want to put in the effort it takes to say something as simple as, “Sorry, I’m not interested in continuing to date you,” or “Sorry I’ve met someone else.”
As many guys, especially those who ghost, tend to think, girls are crazy for asking a simple question. He is afraid if he says anything in regards to his no longer being interested in you that you will lose your cool.
When really you might just say, “That’s okay, thanks for letting me know.”
- He wants to keep things open for the future.
Yes, this is super counter intuitive. Any guy who thinks this is the way to keep the possibility of something on the table has lost their mind.
It is true that guys think if they never really end things with you and just ignore you that when they reach out months down the road, things will be okay. Since technically they never ended things with you, they believe they can pick up where they left off. Uh-uh, that’s not the way it works.
- He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Now this is really a funny one. Some guys who ghost actually believe that they will spare your feelings. We know, right? They think that by ghosting you they are being nicer than actually telling you that they don’t want to date you.
Yes, it requires less of his time, energy, and communication, but it does absolutely nothing to make your feelings less hurt.
- He doesn’t have time.
Yet another reason guys ghost that makes no sense at all. Although ending things, especially when it is still early on, only takes a few minutes, guys believe that is too much to handle.
We don’t get it. Here at New Jersey Singles, we find this “ghosting” phenomenon to be outrageous and immature. Although, that doesn’t stop men from doing it. If you’ve been ghosted, don’t let it discourage you. It simply means you’re not meeting the right men. You’re not meeting men who are mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you’re single and tired of meeting men who are emotionally unavailable, and those who ghost, contact our New Jersey matchmakers today and let us introduce you to relationship-minded men in NJ who are looking for true love. Call 1 (888) 417-0020 to book your 100% FREE matchmaking consultation with New Jersey Singles today!