Everyone knows that men tend to be the ones who back out of relationships due to the fear of settling down. But as professional matchmakers, we know that’s not always the case. If you are having trouble making a relationship last, or regularly make excuses to end things with the guy you’re dating, you need to ask yourself if you might be the one who has the fear of commitment.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews why you may be afraid of commitment.
- You’ve been hurt in the past.
Maybe you thought you had one in the past, the man you wanted to be your one and only one, but then it was over for one reason or another. You were hurt so bad from the breakup that you find it hard to love again. Maybe you still compare everyone you date to that guy and no one seems to measure up to him.
If this is the case, you need to give yourself time to heal and move on from him. Rediscover yourself, find ways to be happy on your own, then, when you’re ready, jump into the dating scene and find love again.
- Things feel too permanent.
You might just not be ready to settle down and spend the rest of your life with just one guy. Staying with just one person might scare the life out of you if you think you will be stuck with him forever, especially if you haven’t had a chance to fall in love with him yet.
You may just need to give yourself time to get out there and explore your options, date for a little bit, meet different men, and then decide when you’re ready to start looking for a committed relationship. This will also help you to discover who you are, what you desire in a relationship, and enable you to be yourself when you do decide to embark in a long-term relationship.
- You feel vulnerable.
Committing to a person for a long-term relationship creates a certain level of vulnerability, and that can be scary. You’re leaving yourself open to the chance of getting your heart broken, being dependent on someone, or not being completely in control of everything in your life. There will come a time when you’ll want to let go and to follow your heart, but perhaps you’re not just there yet. It does take strength to put away the fears and jump into a committed relationship.
- You need the rush.
Committing to a long-term relationship might scare you if you fear that it will be boring. You might worry that sex will become like a routine, that you will run out of things to talk about, or that you will eventually fall out of love. You want the excitement of dating around.
But as matchmakers, we’re here to tell you that there are ways to keep a relationship alive and exciting – if he’s worth the effort. Once you find that special guy, you can work on keeping the relationship fresh and exciting without having to end it to look for excitement elsewhere. When you find real love, you work together to keep the thrill and love alive and thriving.
If you’re single and looking to meet commitment-minded singles in New Jersey, contact our passionate matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service and let us make the introductions. We’ll also help you overcome any dating obstacles you’re facing.
Call 1 (888) 417-0020 to book your 100% FREE matchmaking consultation with New Jersey Singles today!