As relationships continue, the attraction, at some point, will fade away. For some couples, the attraction can last years and years before fading away. For others, it’ll be sooner than expected. We get into our daily routines and things get stagnant. This feeling of stagnation is what causes the attraction to fade away.
Of course, we would all love for our relationships to feel like they did during the early stages, where we feel butterflies and can’t keep our hands off each other. This is a high level of attraction, and it’s what makes us want to continue seeing each other.
You may be asking yourself why you lost the attraction for your partner. Well, as you grow as a person and as an individual, your relationship keeps growing as well. This is because you’re learning and experiencing new things together. But in this case, there could also be a loss of attraction, where you simply don’t feel the connection anymore.
Listen, no one said love was easy, and there’s certainly no equation to it. But what you need to know if you’re feeling a loss of attraction for your partner is what to do next.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews the top four signs you lost the spark in your relationship.
- Everything about your partner annoys you.
Before, you loved the way he slurped when eating soup or the way he hugged you, but now, everything he does bothers you. You can’t handle the way he looks at you, how he speaks, or even how he dresses. You just can’t take it another day. But is this just a mask for something deeper? Does this mean it’s over or are you able to move past this?
- You think about other men.
There could be someone at work that you find attractive or perhaps even your partner’s friend. When you think about them, you feel the butterflies in your stomach. In fact, you can’t stop thinking about them. At this point, your partner isn’t someone you’re really interested in.
Maybe they bore you or certain characteristics irritate you. Or perhaps you’ve grown apart. But the key thing here is that your libido is functioning normally. Unfortunately, it letting you know that you’re no longer attracted to your partner.
- You don’t want to be intimate with him.
You don’t look forward having sex. Don’t get us wrong here, you enjoy sex, but sex with him is no longer a desire for you. When something lacks in the relationship, people have less of a desire to have sex with their partner.
In other cases, sex simply becomes boring. However, this doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to them. It could be that you have a loss of libido caused by stress or depression.
- You don’t think about him during sex.
When having sex, your mind is in a totally different place. You think about other men, what you need to buy at the grocery store, that fact that you should you go to the gym… thoughts that certainly don’t need to be brought to the bedroom. Clearly, your sex life has become a routine.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re no longer attracted to him, it could mean that you need to bring the spark back in the bedroom.
Sometimes, you’re not sure what you’re feeling, and you can’t really pinpoint what’s going on. But if you’re feeling less attracted to your partner, and you’ve tried overcoming these feelings of not wanting to be with them, then it looks like you loss the attraction for them. You have the choice of talking to them and trying to overcome these feelings or going your separate ways. Maybe you just need to spice things up in your romantic life, and not just in the bedroom.
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