Are you losing your mind thinking about your husband’s retirement? Do you worry that he is going to become clingy and want to spend all day long with you? Do you think he may become sullen or full of angst with all his newfound freedom?
Retirement can be challenging for men and their spouses who have not quite prepared for what’s coming their way. In general, men have defined themselves by their career – with other roles, such as a father or husband, as secondary. On the other hand, women have maintained a myriad of other roles, regardless of their work outside the home, and are commonly more social then men. So, it’s not a surprise that retirement can make men feel like they don’t have a purpose in life, lonely and even sad. This, in turn, can lead to a lot of marital stress.
Don’t worry, our New Jersey matchmakers are here to help you out with your husband’s upcoming retirement. Let us show you a few tips to survive your husband’s retirement as a couple.
- Remember that retirement is hard.
Retirement offers a whole new way of living, but it does take a lot of planning, preparation and courage. If you want your marriage to thrive, then you need to be prepared and know that retirement will be hard.
- Dream your dreams and plan for everything.
For years, you heard about the importance of establishing a retirement financial plan. Couples who spent a good amount of time planning how they want to spend their years on retirement report that this has contributed to happier days while on retirement. Acknowledging your dreams is an important aspect of this huge life-changing event. Even if some of those dreams are too expensive to achieve or difficult to pursue, they still produce an opportunity for creative planning as a couple. Couples often find that these pursuits are accessible, sometimes in a less costly or ambitious way, and can be just as fulfilling.
- Identify what you love doing together.
Some couples think that they have too much togetherness now that they are retired. Sharing quality time together as a couple is key for having a successful marriage. Sharing meaningful activities that you both love doing reduces tension and stress in the marriage. Think about any new activity you want to try and do it together to increase the bond you have with one another.
- Let them pursue their own hobbies and interest.
We all need space and time to be alone or to pursue our own hobbies and interests. Having even a small about of alone time is key for the health of your marriage. Let your spouse pursue their own interests and don’t make them feel guilty for wanting to be alone. You both need your individual time to do the things you both enjoy doing outside of the marriage.
- Find reasons to be nice to each other.
Kindness is contagious. It’s harder to stay angry when another person is nice to you, and kindness helps increase the bond as a couple and makes the love grow. Give your partner compliments and never forget to say thank you when they do something for you.
Retirement doesn’t mean the end of your marriage. It does mean a whole new life that you can both enjoy and make the most of it. Good luck and happy retirement days.
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