When a woman goes through a difficult breakup, she gets tons of help from friends and family. Everyone will offer her sympathy, advice and support in all its possible forms. Everyone entirely accepts her sadness and the heartbreak that ensues as normal and almost necessary. However, when men go through a breakup, things are a little bit different. When a man goes through a fresh breakup, every person he comes across will tell him to man up and get over it because there are so many women out there who would be better for him. He’s told that shedding a tear over a breakup is just a waste of time.
Let’s stop pretending men don’t need support after a breakup just as women do. When we fall in love, we tend to think nothing can take that person away from us, and it feels like things will always work out with the person we love. It feels magical, and it feels like we will always be together. Sadly, things take a wrong turn and the relationship ends. If you are a man dealing with the end of your relationship, we’re here to tell you that it’s okay to feel the pain. If you can’t get over where you currently are in your life, there’s hope for you, and there’s a way out.
Today, New Jersey Singles reviews how guys can survive a breakup.
- Keep busy and distract yourself.
You feel empty at the moment. You feel like a massive chunk of your life that meant the world to you is missing. It makes you wonder whether this feeling of hollowness shall ever go away or not. Your life will take a turn for the better once you start keeping yourself busy and do productive things with your life.
Start a workout regimen. Go for an early morning walk. Start cooking healthy meals. Listen to positive music. Catch up on things that you’ve missed out on. It may sound like nothing, but these things will bring a lot of meaning to your life. You need to start giving yourself something to look forward to from here on out.
- Fake it ‘til you make it.
You may not be 100% over your ex yet, your heart may still be utterly broken, but you don’t have to keep telling yourself this over and over again. Use the “act as if” principle for this occasion. Tell yourself you’re stronger than this and act as if you’re almost over the breakup. Keep reminding yourself that you’ll be okay, that you’ll eventually get through this, and act as if you’ve already made it.
- Give yourself plenty of time.
It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s going to take a while for you to get over your ex. You need to learn to be patient with yourself. The road to recovery is not an easy one. If you want to make sure you bounce back stronger than ever, don’t get frustrated with the time it takes to heal. Don’t push yourself too hard and don’t let it get to you. Your broken heart will need plenty of time to heal and recover. Don’t hate yourself for any of the things you’re feeling today. You will come out of this feeling soon. Trust us.
Once you make it through the heartache and fully heal yourself, then and only then can you begin dating again.
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