It definitely hurts to find out that you’re significantly more invested in your relationship than your partner. But sometimes when you’re head over heels for someone, it’s easy to ignore warning signs that are right in front of your eyes. If you’re not sure if you’re in an unbalanced relationship, or one that is bordering on being one-sided, you need to look for the following signs. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews clear warning signs that your partner is not as committed as you are to them.
- You’re the one that’s always making the plans.
Does it seem like you’re the one that’s always initiating the dates? Are you the one who’s always planning date nights? Does everything always come down to you? Maybe your boyfriend is lazy, or maybe he’s uninterested in the relationship. Either way, if you’re the one who’s constantly planning dates and activities, then you’re the only one who’s invested in the relationship.
- He met your friends and family but hasn’t introduced you to his.
Everyone needs time with their friends and family. But if you’re boyfriend avoids introducing you to them, even though you’ve been dating them for a while, then chances are he’s not as committed as you are. If he hasn’t introduced you to his friends and family and doesn’t seem like he wants to, he doesn’t take the relationship as serious as you do.
- He’s hesitant to commit to future plans.
Not committing to future plans with you is a clear sign he’s not as committed to the relationship as you are. Does he say things like, “We’ll see” a lot when you talk about future plans? Does he avoid future conversation when you bring it up? If so, it’s not because he’s busy, it’s most likely because he’s unsure about the relationship.
- It seems like he’s hiding things from you.
Does it feel like your boyfriend is not being completely honest with you? Are you getting weird vibes from him? You need to tune in and listen to your intuition. Look for signs that he’s not being honest with you, like being overprotective of his phone and changing his story multiple times. He might be keeping his options open, which is why he’s not as serious about the relationship as you are.
- He never gets jealous.
Too much jealousy can ruin a relationship. But it’s also not a good thing if your partner never gets jealous, especially when the situation calls for it. For example, if he doesn’t say anything when a guy hits on you at the bar or when someone buys you a drink, then he’s definitely not as invested in the relationship as you are.
- It’s normal for him to disappear for hours/days.
Does he often take a long time to text or call you back? Does he usually wait for you to contact him? Does he disappear for days without you hearing from him? These are major red flags that he’s not as invested in the relationship as you. Not responding to your texts and calls for hours, not initiating the conversation, and disappearing for hours or days are all signs he doesn’t care about the relationship. It’s 2018, everyone has their phones attached to their hands. So why isn’t he responding to you?
- He’s always too busy to see you.
He doesn’t go out of his way to spend time with you or do things unless it’s something he wants to do. He would rather go without seeing you for a whole weekend than miss a football game. He would rather spend time with his friends than spend time with you. Simply put, he would rather do anything else other than be with you. Seeing you should be his number one priority, not an afterthought.
- He doesn’t argue with you.
You don’t want to be in a relationship with a man who is constantly arguing. But not being invested enough to speak up is a major red flag too. If he doesn’t get upset or angry, even when he should, that’s a sign he doesn’t care about you or the relationship.
Ladies, the only one that can tell if he’s serious or not is you. Listen to your intuition and be honest with yourself. Use these tips to save yourself from endless heartache down the road. If you notice a handful of these behaviors, you know what you need to do – save yourself the despair and move on. You deserve so much better!
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